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SAGE Utah Newsletter — February 2021

WELCOME BACK
 

It was a great break, but I’m so happy to be back.  I’ve missed the daily calls, I’ve missed talking to people and I’ve missed going in to the office once a week or so.  But we’re back and ready to tackle a whole new year – together!  I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday season, however you celebrated.  

2020 was a very difficult year in many ways but even though we had to look a littler harder, there were still many reasons to be grateful.  Personally I am grateful for the leadership at the Utah Pride Center.  We were forced into a significant reduction of staff, closed the doors over 9 months ago and we lost a lot of crucial funding dollars, but in true LGBT fashion, we not only survived, we thrived!  So while we reflect on 2020, remember also the triumphs!

This year offers renewed hope with the vaccine on the horizon.  UPC will continue to listen to our national and local health officials as we navigate the eventual re-opening of the Utah Pride Center.  When we are able to safely open, we can’t wait to see all of you.  That will be a party to remember!

Thanks for your support, thanks for hanging in with online programming and if you are a donor to the Utah Pride Center, thank you so much for your financial support.  Wishing all of you the very best that 2021 has to offer!  

If you would like to donate to SAGE specifically, follow this link and know that your donations will go directly to enriching the lives of LGBTQ+ seniors.  https://utahpridecenter.harnessapp.com/wv2/campaign/713

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

 

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FOCUS GROUP

Many of you know Charles Hoy-Ellis, esteemed Professor at the University of Utah and a long standing member of the SAGE Leadership Team.  We have been fortunate to have him on the team and have benefitted monetarily as a SAGE Chapter because of Charlie’s work and dedication to our community.  Charlie is currently recruiting people to participate in a focus group.  Please read the letter below explaining the program and how you can get involved.

#YouToo?
We are excited to announce the launching a new study examining gender-based violence targeting sexual and gender minorities (SGM), particularly women (e.g., lesbian, bisexual, transgender) in university contexts. Due to the stigma that many marginalized groups experience, they may be at greater social risk, while simultaneously having access to fewer social resources.
 
We are inviting you to participate in a focus group on a project that examines how gender-based violence plays out in the lives of SGM women. With your involvement in this ground-breaking research, we can make important contributions to our understanding of the health and well-being of all our communities.
 
Initial criteria for this extremely important study require that you must (1) be at least 18- years old; (2) identify as a woman; and (3) be willing to answer questions about your sexual orientation and gender identity. If you are interested in potentially participating, please contact us at (801) 585-0835, or by email at [email protected]. We will send you a Participation Form that will cost you nothing to return. Once we receive your Participation Form, we will contact you to regarding your eligibility for this study.
Participants will receive a $25 gift card as a token of appreciation for their valuable time.
 
The goal of this project is to further our understanding of how gender-based violence targets women with marginalized sexual orientations and/or gender identities in university contexts. Your participation will make an important contribution to identifying resilience and risk in our communities, improving our health now and in the future!
 
If you have any questions about this research, please call us at (801) 585-0835, or by email at [email protected]. Make our communities healthier!
 
 
My very best regards,

Charlie Hoy-Ellis
Principal Investigator (PI)

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DO YOU USE AMAZON SMILES?

Dozens of anti-gay groups are making money off Amazon’s charity platform

More than 40 anti-LGBTQ organizations are skirting AmazonSmile’s ban on promoting hatred and intolerance, according to a new report. Dec. 23, 2020, 11:08 AM MST By Dan Avery

Amazon’s charity platform is allowing dozens of anti-LGBTQ organizations to receive donations, according to a report published Tuesday by U.K.-based political activist group openDemocracy.

Launched in 2013, the AmazonSmile program allows users to select a nonprofit to receive 0.5 percent of the proceeds from eligible purchases.

More than a million U.S.-based nonprofits are listed with the program and, while Amazon does not disclose how much individual groups have raised, the program has generated more than $215 million since its founding, according to the online retail giant.

The AmazonSmile participation agreement states organizations that promote “intolerance, hate, terrorism, violence, money laundering, or other illegal activities” are ineligible. However, the retailer maintains it “cannot guarantee the good standing and/or conduct of any charidiv organization” and relies on determinations by the Southern Poverty Law Center and the U.S. Office of Foreign Assets Control. In a Senate subcommittee hearing in July, Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos called this vetting process “an imperfect system.”  

TO READ THE REST OF THIS ARTICLE, PLEASE FOLLOW THIS SAFE LINK:

https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/dozens-anti-gay-groups-are-making-money-amazon-s-charity-n1252231

If you want to change your Amazon Smiles charity to the Utah Pride Center, go to your account, click on Amazon Smiles and put in “Utah Pride Center” as your chosen charity. 

To support charity, always shop at smile.amazon.com

Try these 2 easy ways to start with a smile. Learn about AmazonSmile
 

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12 New Year’s Resolutions for Seniors


Posted by Peter Andersen, Dec 06, 2017   |   Independent Living |   Aging & Health

Each New Year is a gift. It’s another opportunity to take stock of our lives and decide what we’d like to change. We can make changes large and small. We’ve gathered here 12 New Year’s resolutions specifically for seniors, including practical resolutions – not as fun but bound to bring peace of mind – and more attitude-oriented resolutions, which remind us that every day can be a good day. There are even a couple from my mom!

Resolution 1: Review your legal documents. Getting organized is a common New Year’s resolution, and getting your legal documents in order is a critical spin on the idea. “This is really more for your loved ones than for yourself,” says Brien Kinkel, a retired teacher in Washington, DC, who spent years caring for his parents. “You may have a will, a living will, and advanced directives in all their various forms,” he says. “Resolve to meet with a lawyer and make sure each document is current, legal, and reflective of your personal desires.”

Resolution 2: Get up to date on your vaccinations. “It’s easy to put these things off when your doctor recommends them,” says Fadia Zawaideh, a pharmacist in Silver Spring, Md. “But they’re important.” Zawaideh recommends you talk with your doctor or pharmacist at least once a year about what you may have missed. “Flu, pneumonia, shingles, these are all important vaccines and can save your life.”

Resolution 3: Inventory medications. As a pharmacist, Zawaideh tells the surprisingly common story of a woman whose doctor prescribed 50mg of her medication to be taken every morning. “For years, she took five 10mg pills every single morning.” But one month her prescription was refilled with 50 mg pills, so she would only have to take one per day – except she missed that part. “She unknowingly took a nearly toxic dose until she realized what had happened.” Ask your pharmacist to email you a list of all the meds you’re on and the dosages, send a copy to a friend or family member, and keep a copy on your cell phone. You might also consider a medication dispenser, especially if you or your partner has any cognitive challenges.

Resolution 4: Try something new. This year, try something that takes you out of your comfort zone. “Make a new friend,” says my Seattle-based mom, Mary Ann Andersen. “Learn a new game. See a movie or read a book you know nothing about. Adventure doesn’t have to involve physical risk or danger. Every day can be an adventure if you simply resolve to try something new.”

Resolution 5: Challenge yourself. Mental and physical challenges motivate us to change behaviors and do more, according to Peter Ross, CEO of Senior Helpers in Towson, MD. Mental challenges like Sudoku, quizzes, crossword or jigsaw puzzles “will improve mental strength, which can improve memory,” he says. Physical challenges enable you to gradually improve things like balance, endurance, strength, flexibility and overall health. Talk to your doctor about physical activity that’s right for you, set a goal and then work with her or him to devise a plan to gradually and safely increase it.

Resolution 6: De-clutter. We can amass a lot of stuff over a lifetime. Holding on to some of it makes sense because it increases your quality of life and reminds you of happy times and great experiences. But there’s likely a lot of stuff that you don’t need, and that your children may not want. Commit to begin divesting yourself of items that don’t have special meaning, and to organizing what you do keep. That will make it easier for you day-to-day, and for your children later.

Resolution 7: Understand your fall risk. “Falls are the leading cause of injury for Americans over 65,” says Steven Loewy of FYZICAL Therapy & Balance Centers in Sarasota, FL. “One in four older Americans fall each year.” Even if you’re an active, steady senior, you could be at an elevated risk for a fall because of medications you’re on or because of underlying medical conditions. Make a resolution to talk to your physician about your risk of falling, investigate how to re-arrange things in your home to make it safer, and consider a personal medical alert device with fall protection.

Resolution 8: Forgive the people in your life who deserve it. Grudges, slights and old scores weigh us down. Forgiveness makes us lighter and happier. This year, choose one person and work to let them off the hook. Then make the same commitment to yourself. “Take stock of who you are, and remember you’re a better person than you give yourself credit for,” says Ralph Higgins, a retired ship captain in San Francisco. “Understand that and internalize it. Too often we taunt ourselves with, ‘If only I had…’ and ‘If only I hadn’t….’ You don’t have to do that anymore.”

Resolution 9: Embrace technology. Technology can be daunting, or it can be a gateway to a higher quality of life. This year, resolve to try one new technology. Video chatting with far-flung family and friends is more satisfying than a phone call, text or email. Social media makes it easier to stay connected to the people you care about on your own schedule. eBooks, games and other apps put amusements and favorite hobbies in the palm of your hand. There are even online support communities for people with certain medical conditions, or who are caring for spouses with chronic physical or cognitive conditions.

Resolution 10: Keep laughing! Many seniors find themselves in different places, surrounded by different people, carrying out a different daily routine. Don’t let that disconnect you from the things that have made you laugh. “Find the friends, movies, comedians, books, and other things that have made you laugh throughout your life,” says Higgins. “Go back and reestablish those connections. If something made you laugh before, chances are it’ll make you laugh now.” And we all know laughter is the best medicine.

Resolution 11: Share memories. You’ve lived a great life. Reliving those memories can lift your spirits and others’. Make a resolution to capture those memories in a more lasting way by making audio or video recordings on your cell phone, divt or laptop. Maybe even engage your grandchildren or nieces and nephews in helping you. If writing is more your style, start a journal of your favorite memories or important facts and dates you want your family to know about. Feeling crafty? Make a scrapbook. If you’re really serious, contact a personal historian, who works with you to tell your story and then creates a digital or hard copy book telling your life story.

Resolution 12: Revisit your old resolutions. “Go back and look at some of the things you’ve resolved in the past,” Andersen suggests, “and ask yourself if they’re still necessary.” Give yourself permission to repeal the ones that aren’t. “Sometimes we hold ourselves to strict standards that quite frankly have outlived their usefulness. Giving up fried chicken might have been a really good idea when you were in your 50’s,” she says, “but if you’re in your 80’s and you really miss it, maybe you could revisit that.”

At any stage of life, the New Year is a convenient opportunity to take stock of what we’re doing, and to make the changes we’d like. But you’ve earned the privilege of making any change you want, any day of the year. After all, there’s no law saying we can only improve our lives on the first day of January. If making a new resolution will improve your life, isn’t every day the right day?

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INSPIRATION STATION  “Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been.”
— David Bowie

“The great thing about getting older is that you get a chance to tell the people in your life who matter what they mean to you.”
-– Mike Love

“Today is the oldest you’ve ever been, and the youngest you’ll ever be again.”
— Eleanor Roosevelt

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    Join us on any or all our calls – there’s a little something for everyone!

SAGE DAILY CALL 6:30 – 7:30 PM Schedule: 
Monday – Ted Talks
Tuesday – Variety Night
Wednesday – Book Club (listen to books on tape)
Thursday – Trivia Night
TEAMS MEETING

BI HIVE EVERY 2ND WEDNESDAY 7:00 – 8:00 (THIS IS FOR PEOPLE OVER 40 WHO IDENTIFY AS BISEXUAL)
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MEN’S SACK LUNCH – WEEKLY ON WED, 12:00 – 1:30 PM
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SAGE SUPPER CLUB – 6:30 – 7:30 PM MONTHLY, 3RD FRIDAY
TEAMS MEETING

SAGE SOCIAL GROUP – 1:00 – 2:30 PM MONTHLY ON THE 2ND TUESDAY
TEAMS MEETING

OGDEN SAGE – 2:00 – 4:00 PM MONTHLY ON THE 3RD SUNDAY
TEAMS MEETING

ADULT PROGRAM CALLS – MONDAY & WEDNESDAY 5:30 – 6:30 PM
Join Google Meet:
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Phone:
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BIG WIN!

SCOTUS Refuses to Overturn Ruling That Allowed Students to Use the Bathroom Aligned with Gender Identity

The U.S. Supreme Court on Monday rejected a request to hear a case challenging an Oregon high school’s policy allowing transgender students to use the bathroom that corresponds with their gender identity. The petition filed by the advocacy group Parents for Privacy was rejected by the justices without comment, leaving in place a lower court ruling which held that the district’s policy did not impinge on parents’ childrearing rights or students’ privacy rights.

The case, Parents for Privacy v. William P. Barr, stems from a 2017 lawsuit filed after the Dallas School District No. 2 put in place the anti-discrimination bathroom and locker room policies. Portland-based U.S. District Judge Marco A. Hernandez dismissed the action in 2018, leading the parents to file an appeal with the Ninth Circuit.

A three-judge panel on the circuit court affirmed Hernandez’s ruling in February, concluding that the Fourteenth Amendment did not provide viable privacy claims for either parents or students to challenge the policy.

“We agree with the district court and hold that there is no Fourteenth Amendment fundamental privacy right to avoid all risk of intimate exposure to or by a transgender person who was assigned the opposite biological sex at birth,” Judge A. Wallace Tashima wrote in a 55-page opinion that SCOTUS chose not to review.

“We also hold that a policy that treats all students equally does not discriminate based on sex in violation of Title IX, and that the normal use of privacy facilities does not constitute actionable sexual harassment under Title IX just because a person is transgender. We hold further that the Fourteenth Amendment does not provide a fundamental parental right to determine the bathroom policies of the public schools to which parents may send their children, either independent of the parental right to direct the upbringing and education of their children or encompassed by it. Finally, we hold that the school district’s policy is rationally related to a legitimate state purpose, and does not infringe Plaintiffs’ First Amendment free exercise rights because it does not target religious conduct.”

While the justices have not yet agreed to hear a case directly related to transgender bathroom policies, the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Fourth Circuit earlier this year cited to Justice Neil Gorsuch’s landmark opinion in Bostock v. Clayton County in holding that that public schools cannot prohibit transgender students from using the bathroom that corresponds to their gender identity.

In Bostock, the court stated that it was “impossible” to discriminate against a transgender individual without taking that person’s sex into account, a rationale that was mirrored by the appellate court’s August ruling.

“After the Supreme Court’s recent decision in Bostock v. Clayton County, we have little difficulty holding that a bathroom policy precluding Grimm from using the boys restrooms discriminated against him ‘on the basis of sex,’” the opinion stated. “Although Bostock interprets Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, it guides our evaluation of claims under Title IX. That is because the discriminator is necessarily referring to the individual’s sex to determine incongruence between sex and gender, making sex a but-for cause for the discriminator’s actions.”   ****************************************************************************************** SUPPORTING LOCAL BUSINESSES
Meet my friends Rachael and Jesse, owners of Club 90 in Sandy.  Rachael and Jesse bought this establishment six years ago and built it into a fun night club with a very diverse crowd following.  There was delicious food (even for vegetarians!), awesome live music, dancing, karaoke, paint nights, craft nights and much more.  Everyone was welcomed at Club 90 with a little something for everyone.  Many people didn’t go there to consume alcohol, but were going for one of the many activities and it was always a great time.  They are the official bar where Steelers fans meet during football season to watch the games as well as a large group of senior people who retired from Ma Bell that met there weekly for lunch.  There was an annual craft fair, Bunco games, and the ability to host private parties.  This is a wonderful local business that supported other local artists and entrepreneurs.  It would be great to give back to this business who has been such a leader in acceptance, love and the celebration of diversity.

As we have seen over the last nine months, Covid has been hard on all of our local businesses.  Some have already been forced to close, most have had employee lay-offs including Club 90, but they are trying to stay afloat.  They have a great menu and offer curb side pick up with a 10% discount on menu items.  If you would like to help support this local business, try ordering some to go food and picking it up.   https://www.club90slc.com/blank-page-1

Prior to Covid, Rachael and I were working on starting some line dance lessons for seniors.  We still want to offer those classes once it is safe for seniors to gather again.  Hopefully we can help them stay open!  Thanks Rachael and Jesse for being a local business that supports our LGBTQ community.  We love you and wish you the best!
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GOOD LUCK RACHAEL, JESSE AND ALL THE EMPLOYEES OF CLUB 90!
If you have friends with local small businesses that you would like to see spotlighted, please send the business name and contact information to [email protected] and they will be highlighted in our newsletter to help in some small way.  
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Growing Your Beard Out Won’t Keep You Warm (and Shaving It off Won’t Keep You Cool)

While it’s easy to believe that cultivating a massive face-bush will keep you toasty, science disagrees.

For centuries, bearded men have argued that facial hair is nature’s insulation, and therefore a handy wintertime tool. They oftentimes point to this 2012 study, which found that regularly-shaved upper lips are an average of one degree warmer than hairless cheeks, as proof. There are just two problems: This study is irrelevant, since both the upper lips and the cheeks were hairless when the temperature was recorded, and these same bearded men also conveniently claim that (come summertime) beards don’t provide enough insulation to increase the average temperature of the face.

So, which is it? Do beards keep you warm, or don’t they? Science points to the latter.

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  Joann Haines proudly served our country as a United States Marine during Vietnam from 1965 – 1969..  Joann is also a member of our SAGE community and before Covid, was newly enjoying some activities with SAGE.  Prior to our meeting, she wasn’t aware that we had a thriving senior LGBTQ+ community at the Utah Pride Center.  Joann and I met at a salon where we were both getting our nails done.  We struck up a conversation and I asked if she had heard of the Pride Center, gave her my card and told her about SAGE program.  The rest is history as they say as Joann and I became fast friends.  She is fun, interesting, very gifted in her musical talents, a healer, practices Buddhism and is one of the most positive, kind people I know.  Her flute music is so relaxing and beautiful.  If you are looking for a way to relax, give her music a try at the link below.  Thank you for your service Joann and thanks for being part of SAGE.

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NEIGHBORS HELPING NEIGHBORS
UNIVERSITY OF UTAH COLLEGE OF SOCIAL WORK

(THE AGE HAS BEEN LOWERED TO 60+)
Program Opportunity for 60+
Neighbors Helping Neighbors with the University of Utah College of Social Work is Offering Weekly Support to Older Adults in the Salt Lake County Area.
Services provided are at no cost to the participant.
Services Eligibility

  • 60+ years old
  • Live in Salt Lake County
  • Live Independently in a Home or Apartment

Contact Info

If interested in participating or would like more information about the program, please contact:

Erin Davies (She/Her/Hers), MSWi

Email: [email protected]

Phone: (435) 553-4155

Regina Campbell, LCSW, MSW

Director of Neighbors Helping Neighbors

University of Utah College of Social Work

Email: [email protected]

Phone: (801) 585-9156

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    Do you work for an organization that serves the public?  If so, this box is a must have.  It was created as part of our suicide prevention program and is filled with resources.  If you are serving the public, you are definitely serving LGBTQ+ people in the mix.  It is very important for organizations to show that they are inclusive, accepting and affirming and to show your organizational support.  Click on the link to order a box for your organization.  You never know which person’s life you may be saving.  

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THE MYA – WELCOME HOME
The Mya is a new complex that will be opening in early 2021.  They have about 40 units set aside for low/fixed income individuals.  If you are interested in putting in an application, please refer to the documents below.

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The Mya is not associated with the Utah Pride Center, however we get a lot of requests for assistance in finding affordable housing.  The Mya is looking to build a diverse community of people living in this brand new space and reached out to the Pride Center.  We are happy to make others aware of new housing opportunities as we are made aware of them. ******************************************************************************************
TAX SEASON BE JUST AROUND THE CORNER   Hard to believe tax season is going to be upon us very shortly.  If you need tax assistance, here are some resources you might find helpful.

AARP
https://www.aarp.org/aarp-foundation/find-help/

IRS
https://www.irs.gov/individuals/free-tax-return-preparation-for-qualifying-taxpayers
https://www.irs.gov/individuals/seniors-retirees

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TECHNOLOGY HELP
  If  you have technical questions about site security or how to connect to a virtual call or other questions, there is through Pride Center employees.   

[email protected] (Questions answered by our webmaster Joni Weiss)

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WE OUR AMAZING
COMMUNITY PARTNERS!
THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONTINUED SUPPORT

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WHO CAN JOIN SAGE?
  SAGE is designed for LGBT elders – people over 50.  However, if you are part of an inter-generational couple, both of you are still eligible to join.  If you have a  partner who has not joined because they are younger than 50, please have them send a request to be added to our membership list.  We  need name, zip code and email address sent to [email protected]  We will never check your id!  Donate to Sage UtahCopyright © *2018* Utah Pride Center All rights reserved.
Our mailing address is:
PO Box 1078
SLC, UT 84110

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